princessbubblegumandjustice:

fullten:

fullten:

If you need drama in a relationship, otherwise you’re bored and will lash out,

You’re a shit person.

A shitty boring person, who obviously isn’t ready for a relationship

It’s way too normalized to start fights to “spice” up a relationship. That being in a comfortable relationship, is somehow boring, when like, that’s the fucking goal.

Actually healthy ways to spice up a relationship:

• Communicate with your partner and explain that you don’t enjoy the level of predictability in your relationship 
• Find a new hobby to do together
• Find a new place to go for date night or go someplace different each time 
• Go on vacation together
• Surprise them with breakfast in bed
• Have sex in a new position or explore a different sexual interest
• Redecorate or start a small home improvement project 
• Find a new romantic ritual like slow dancing or writing love letters
• Get in touch with your inner child: go to an arcade, a trampoline park, an amusement park, or a water park! 
• Spend time with other couples or go on double dates
• Clean together to look at all your old junk and maybe even organize a garage sale
• Start working out or eating healthier together
• Find a book to read or show to watch at the same time
• Have a no-tech night and just enjoy each others company for the evening and maybe even make it a weekly thing 
• Recreate your first date or how you met
• Have a spa day at a resort or make your home a spa
• Get tattooed at the same time (but I recommend not getting matching tattoos, getting their name, or getting your anniversary)
• Or alternatively get matching tattoos, their name, or your anniversary drawn on you in henna or something else temporary
• Shower together
• Extreme sports: try sky diving, bungee jumping, or cliff diving together! 
• Prepare a meal from scratch together
• Volunteer together
• Go star gazing
• Make a collage of your pictures
• Make two lists: one of all the movies your partner is shocked you haven’t seen and one of all the movies you’re shocked your partner hasn’t seen and either have a movie night or slowly work your way through the lists
• Take lessons together: learn how to surf, dance, or paint together!
• Go camping
• Make tie-dye shirts
• Plan a picnic
• Dress your partner for your date and have them dress you
• Draw each other, and don’t worry if you’re not artistically inclined! That’s half the fun!
• Have a nerf gun battle
• Learn together by going to a museum
• Take a language class together, now you don’t have to worry about sounding silly or trying to find someone to practice with!
• Join ancestry or some other service and map out both of your families
• Basically anything except for starting problems in your relationship out of boredom